10 Super Simple Ways To Be Happy

Everyone strives to be happy but the mistake everyone makes is that they think happiness is some kind of finishing line in a race. Once you crossed that line, you will live happily ever after. That is not true. Happiness is a choice! You can choose to make your life happy. So here are a few ways you could try.

1. Let go of past memories.

Everyone has both sad and happy moments.
So forget about your painful memories. What’s in the past stays in the past. 
Instead, focus on your good memories and move on.

2. Be optimistic.

Always try looking on the bright side of things. Look for the silver lining behind each dark cloud. For example, if you had an unfortunate accident and your car is badly dented, but on the bright side, nobody got hurt and that dent in your car can be repaired. There is always a bright side to look on so be optimistic!                                                                                                       
3. Be close to your family

Try and maintain a close relationship with your family and friends. Our relationships with them have a greater impact on our happiness than anything else. Human beings are made to be social creatures. So appreciate the existing relationships that you have.

4. Try finding a job that gives you happiness.

If you are feeling stressed out in your current job and not getting the job satisfaction that you want, perhaps it’s time for a career change. Job satisfaction plays an important part in your happiness. So give your job a chance. Try having a positive attitude in your job.               If that doesn’t work, it may be time for a change of jobs.                                                            

 5. Make friends                                                                                                                                  

You need to make friends with people who share a common interest. Find something that you are deeply passionate about. It could be a hobby or an organization you can volunteer in. There you could meet people who have the same interest and passion as you.

6. Exercise. 

Exercising releases endorphins. So, not only are you taking care of your body but you will automatically start feeling good about yourself.

7. Change your thoughts.

You have to start living life to the fullest. Don’t delay your life a second longer. Try something new everyday or pick up a new skill!

8. Don’t let the small stuff bug you.

Remember all the small petty stuff that used to bother you? Forget all about it and focus on the bigger picture. Life is too short to be worry about trivial stuff.

9. Live your life for yourself 

Stop trying to live your life up to other people’s expectations. You are your own person. So start living it for yourself!

 10.Lastly, remember to love with all your heart.                               

You have all this love to give so give your love to something or someone and start feeling happy today! 


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Written By:  Bonnie Swaile
CEO/Founder of OrganizingBetterSolutions                                             obsandbonnie.wordpress.com                                               searchinghappinessonline@gmail.com

Writing 101/ write blindly for 20 minutes

writing blindly

To write blindly for twenty minutes without any aim or direction and no stopping till the 20 minutes are up. What do you suppose a writer would write about in 20 minutes?  What do you suppose someone would talk about if they knew they only had 20 minutes to talk? As I’m having a menopausal moment of heating up from the inside out I suppose one could talk about that… One thing I did notice a couple of summers ago while experiencing a memorable hot flash. I remember thinking it would be awesome to have all my long hair chopped off for the summer and how much cooler and easier it would be to care for. ( 12 mins into writing this ) Wrong! I went ahead and cut my hair short, style’n, looking good, until I went to blow dry my hair the next day. It didn’t seem to matter how long I stood there trying to get my hair dry. It seemed like the longer I had the hair dryer pointed at my head the wetter my hair got. Having a hot flash while trying to dry your short hair in the summer heat, is futile. Twenty minutes are up….

A new kind of fighting in the front room!

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First off, I would just like to mention that I think I’m a pretty cool hip grandma. I’m all down with this whole computer generation and I even know enough about computers to have a blog. Go Grandma! Right?

Well just the other day, while the granddaughters were over visiting, I got the eye opener of a life time. Upon entering the front room, I hear squabbling between my 2 granddaughters. Oh I know, nothing new there, kids squabble and fight with one another all the time, especially siblings. Right?

Well! I walked in on something I have never seen before in my live. I just stood there dumbfounded, I could not believe what I was witnessing.  All I could do was watch in silent horror!

In one corner of the front room Claire is squatting on the chair in complete stress, whipping her finger across her iPad in a mad frenzy, her face is all scrunched up and she’s yelling at her sister Emma, all the while madly defending something on her iPad screen. “No! No! No! Don’t use the fire!” she screeches. As I look over at Emma, on the opposite side of the front room, she is also madly swiping her finger across her iPad. Only she has this evil grin on her face and she is giggling in a low growling voice. “No! No! Not the sword Emma, not the sword!” Claire bellows across the room.

Upon reaching Claire on this side of the front room, I looked down on to her iPad screen and could not believe what I was witnessing! Standing there welding a huge sword back and forth was the weirdest looking creature, trying to resemble a human being. It was 2 dimensional, but yet 3 dimensional, and the surroundings were square,  just plain odd-looking. All the while Claire is yelling at her sister to stop, frantically trying to get away from her sister’s character, who is chasing her character around with a huge sword, in this un-dimensional building. If that makes any sense? The disturbance finely got to the point where I actually had to give them the finger-pointing and lecture about being nice to each other. I could not believe the two of them were fighting each other in virtual reality. I’m like “are you kidding me!” Upon explaining the issue to their mother, I was further stunned by her reply, “awe, don’t worry about it mom, they do this all the time.” She explained to me that usually when it gets too heated, they have to put their iPad’s away and actually have to go play with each other.

I guess I’m not as hip as I thought. I knew you could play video games together on one screen, I suppose I didn’t realize how far technology really has gone. Now we can battle each other from across the room and not even touch each other. I can go and destroy your village, burn down your house, slay all your farm animals, murder you and your family, all while I’m sitting across the front room from you or even while I’m sitting next to you. CRAZY!

I can honestly say that I am not very keen to this new way of interacting with one another, but I’m not closed-minded either. Some how I can see this being the on set of our Zombie generation to come. A generation of people who never have to leave their homes for anything. Everything will be generated through a massive computer era, the computer supper age will dominate all we do…

I would love to read your comments and ideas on this topic. Do you think we can stop our kids and their kids generation from becoming a world of computer Zombies? Will it truly be the way of the new generations to come? Will people eventually get to the point of never having to leave their homes? Will the world become a place of abandonment, will the city streets be empty, buildings, warehouses, factory’s, gas stations, grocery stores all abandon because they are no longer needed. Everything in this era will be satisfied with computers, computers will control all the world and will be the sole provider for our every needs…

How can I meditate, when I can’t get my head to shut-up!

Oh those pesky little thoughts that infiltrate your mind at bedtime. You had the worst day ever and all you want to do is cover your head and go to sleep.

No, wait your mind says, what about that issue you had to deal with at the department store today. You know in your mind that their comment was said without any thought and it completely destroyed your mental balance.

Now you roll yourself up into the fetal position and cover your head with the pillow, feeling like an idiot because your response wasn’t what you wanted it to be. You were supposed to say something, not stand there with your eyes bugged out and mouth wide open.

Oh! Here we go, as the multitude of scenarios start bombarding your head. I would’ve said “this” or I would’ve said “that”. Okay, now you’re mad, why in the world would they of said “THAT” in the first place?

As you roll over on to your back, staring at the ceiling, you’re struck with fear. Who else heard what they had said? Who else was watching and listening? Why should I care anyway?

Now you are rigid, arms done by your side, fists clenched. You can feel your forehead, jaw and teeth all clench at the same time. What if I would have done “that”? What if I would have done “this”? On and on it goes.

AH! Lets try some relaxation techniques. Going through the process of deep breathing and relaxing your body from your toes to your head. Taking your time and desperately trying to stay focused. Once you’ve reached the top of your head, feeling all relaxed, then BAM, it starts all over again. The would’ve, the should’ve and the could’ve.

You anxiously look at the alarm clock only to discover, that it’s a lot later than you thought. Okay let’s try this again, after about the 4th or 5th time, maybe even longer, you just eventually fall into a restless and very unsatisfying sleep.

Upon rising in the morning, you feel the effects of that restless night, only to start the whole process over again.

I eventually found what worked for me, to get my head to shut-up and I have been striving for the next level in life with an open mind and an open heart.

As for meditation, well I’ll just have to keep trying and hope that one day I might become successful at it and if I don’t, well, lets just leave it at that.

Penmanship. For the love of the pen.

Pens and Pencils

My first recollection of pens and pencils, remembered as a small child, was admiring my mothers pretty stationary. What caught my eye the most, was the writing on the paper. It seemed perfectly lined even though there were no lines on the paper, all the words and letters were slanted in handwritten fashion. I remember the feel of the paper, how the ink looked and how in some places it was thicker and smudged.

I can see my mother now as if it were yesterday, pen in hand, face pressed close to the paper, writing as if it were her last words, and with her glasses on, I can still remember how smart and brilliant she looked on that day. The kitchen was filled with sunlight, the kitchen table was her desk. It was clean of anything kitchen related and became a place where she seemed to get lost in the motion of pen in hand and its connection with the piece of stationary. Often times there would be other stationary pieces on the table, with a different style of penmanship and it was not at all like my mother’s.

Fast forwarding to present day. I absolutely love my handwriting. Why? It is identical to my mothers, slanted and perfect in every way. I have spent hours, upon hours trying to perfect my penmanship. Which is probably a big reason why I didn’t do so well in school. I spent all my time perfecting my penmanship and not actually completing my homework. BIG FAT FAIL! Oh well, long gone, in the past, and I still have amazing handwriting. Laughing out loud…

I think the biggest thing that propelled me into this love of penmanship,  wait for it…..  was the feel of the pencil against the paper as it glided up and down between the lines. Such a feeling of control, I could make this pencil move in any direction I want it to. I could move it to be light and gentle or I could move it to be hard and rough.

As I grew older and graduated into the pen, I began to really experiment with my ability to use the pen. The feeling of the pen in my hand, the way the pen glided up and down between the lines was 10 times better than the pencil. How exciting! I also discover as I got older, that the pen to paper can change as my mood did. How brilliant is that? Sometimes it can be big and sloppy or at times it can be neat and proper. Ah, the discovery of the many different pen styles, Heaven! I had the most pens in one pencil case a student could ever possibly need. By then the pen requirements were becoming more sophisticated. Really, depending on the type and style of paper you have, there is a pen that goes with that style of paper. Sorry you didn’t know that. Laughing out loud again…

Now that I have reached a modest maturity level in my life, I mostly dedicated myself to the good old HB pencil. Yes I have tried all the fancy, insert the, lead, type pencils. Still prefer the, sharpen yourself, HB. My dedication over the years to many different types of pens, I finally ended up with two favourites, the Bic and Paper mate. I must admit though, I am always on the hunt for the perfect pen. It has to have the right fit to my hand, it has to have the right kind of movement on the paper, it has to have the right kind of point/ball tip and it has to be the right kind of blue. Every once in a while, with or during a mood change, I will change the colour of the pen as well.

I journal daily with my favourite pen, I still love the feel of the pen in my hand, the pen to paper, the way it glides up and down between the lines, I still remember the day of watching my mother at the kitchen table, writing return letters to friends and family. I can’t remember the last time I wrote a letter. Everyone I know today is on one or all of the social media networks and everyone totally has an email address or a .com, ( Giggling )

What in the world would I possibly do with a pen and paper now? Lets see; write in my journal, ( that’s only by choice, I could have a journal on my computer. ) taking notes, grocery list, by choice as well. I am starting to get used to the idea of putting the list in my phone instead. Still not quite a habit yet. Listing things to do on my to do list and then checking them off. Maybe marking a special note on the calendar. That’s about all I can come up with for now.

Do Best selling authors, poets, screenwriters, etc, still use pen and paper or are they slowly phasing out the pen as well?

Are the days of pens and pencils numbered?

68 Seconds? Blogging 101 Assignment, My Dream Reader.

68 Seconds to happiness
With only a few seconds of focusing your attention on being happy, you activate the vibration of happiness, and
immediately the Law of Attraction begins to respond to that activation. The longer you keep your attention focused on being happy, the easier it becomes for you to begin attracting happiness, through the Law of Attraction, thoughts or vibrations are the essence of that thought.

Within 17 seconds of focusing on something, a matching vibration becomes activated. And now, as that focus becomes stronger and the vibration becomes clearer, the Law of Attraction will bring to you more thoughts that match. At this point, it is important that you maintain your focus longer, the power of the vibration will become further reaching.

And if you manage to stay purely focused upon that thought for as little as 68 seconds, the vibration is powerful enough for manifestation to begin.

When you repeatedly return to a pure thought, maintaining it for at least 68 seconds, in a short period of time (hours in some cases or a few days in others), that thought becomes a dominant thought. And once you achieve a dominant thought, you will experience  matching manifestations until you change it.

Remember that:

  • The thoughts you think equal your point of attraction.
  • You get what you think about, whether you want it or not.
  • Your thoughts equal vibration, and that vibration is then answered by the Law of Attraction.
  • As your vibration expands and becomes more powerful, it eventually becomes powerful enough for manifestation to occur.
  • In other words, what you think (and therefore feel), and what manifests in your experience, is always a vibrational match.

You Have the Ability to Direct Your Own Thoughts

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How to be happy  🙂 


“Who am I and why I’m here” Blogging101 assignment.

Who am I and why am I here?

Hello Fellow Bloggers, my name is Bonnie and I am here to learn as much as can about blogging, to help get my other ideas off the ground. I believe blogging is the gateway drug to internet marketing, just kidding, laughing out loud!

I am a Life Organizer, which is a cross between a life coach and professional organizer. laughing out loud again!!! So, you can probably guess what I am trying to accomplish, and I will be posting mostly about personal development and self help. I do believe I will also be developing my niche along the way as well.

My goal is to connect with as many “sad, unorganized people as possible and help them get back to living life again. To help someone to see and reach for new goals and accomplishments. I am also hoping to open a gateway for affiliate marketing, if I continue blogging successfully for the next year.

Thank you for reading my posts and blog.

I’m excited for feedback, comments and constructive critique.